Rather than asking how people go deaf in general (genetic, accident, illness, etc.), a popular question is “how can I become deaf”…like literally and deliberately force it upon yourself.
It’s an unusual question but it’s not something that I encourage.
Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing “wrong” with being deaf. But people have to realise and understand that it’s not a novelty or “a bit of fun”. It comes with barriers and challenges.
But rather than quickly judge those who asks this question, perhaps there is more to the story.
You can watch the video…
…listen to the podcast…
…or read the transcripts below.
“Hey, How Can I Make Myself Go Deaf?”
So this is a weird question that people ask, “how can I make myself go deaf?”
And I’m not talking about those who ask the question in terms of, how does it happen? Maybe you’re born with it or because of an illness or a disease or loud noises.
No, I’m talking about those who literally ask how can I physically make myself go deaf? I want it now, people ask that question. I want to help you, and no, I don’t want to help you to become deaf, I don’t want to provide solution for it, I want to help you to overcome this question about wanting to go deaf.
The Big Question You Should Ask Instead
Why? Why do you want to become deaf?
We both have to stop and really really think about it. Because when I see that, when I see that question people ask and people have asked me that question then, I feel like they need to stop and think about it because there has to be more to this story from that person.
There has to be something in the background that I don’t know about on why that is something that they want it, they desire it, they really really want to become deaf.
So let me ask you these questions:
is it because you want to escape something? Is there something you want to get away from?
Is the surrounding environment a noisy one?
Do sound cause you physical pain?
Do you associate sounds or certain sound with some kind of negative moments in your life like a trauma or a bad situation?
Maybe the sound of people talking actually make you feel lonely because maybe you don’t have a companionship or that social interaction with people?
If any of that applies to you then please talk to someone. And it could be someone that you are close to or you trust, someone that you feel like you can connect with, friends, family, doctor, someone in a professional level like, therapist or anything like that.
Talk to someone.
There has to be more to this story on why you want to become deaf because I can tell you that it’s not a solution. There’s no shame in talking about it and I don’t want to make you feel like there’s shame in asking that question because I feel like there’s something more to it.
There’s something behind that story when you’re asking that. So please talk to someone.
You Don’t Need to Be Deaf to be Part of Deaf Community
If the other reason is because you want to be part of the Deaf community, well you don’t need to nor should you need to become deaf to be part of it. Now yes, it’s different when you grew up with it and you have that connection with them.
To some extent it may be easier to be part of it if you know sign language and you grew up with it and that’s your identity, all these things. But that shouldn’t be and it will not be the only way you can be part of the Deaf community.
Look in your local area, reach out to them, connect with people and find out where do they hang out, where do they communicate, where do they all get together and make an effort to communicate with them.
Learn sign language, make more of an effort and you could be part of it. Just like anywhere around the world, any situation.
There will be some idiots out there who will not be happy with you, there will be gatekeepers out there, there will be people who will not want to be associated with you but that applies to any aspect of life.
Not just Deaf community, it could be anywhere.
Don’t let that stop you, don’t let that deter you, you can still connect with deaf people in your local area.
And that is without becoming deaf, you don’t need to become deaf to be part of the Deaf community.
So just like when you build relationship with people, when you meet someone new and just like when you learn any languages around the world, it takes time.
It takes time and you need to be consistent and you need to be patient when you start developing your relationship and developing your language skills. So make sure you give yourself a break and be patient and just be consistent in learning and just getting to know people.
And then gradually when you get to know more people, you will find that for a lot of deaf people, they will not necessarily say, I wish I am hearing.
Because I’ve mentioned this before on how it’s part of their identity, it’s part of culture, it’s part of their image and everything about it that they’re proud of it and it’s not something that they wish they can go hearing.
But at the same time, they will not exactly wish everyone will go deaf. And I think I’d be very surprised if people actually say that because, it’s a culture, it’s an identity and something that they’re proud of.
So you will find that when you meet more people that they’re not going to encourage you to become deaf which is ridiculous if that ever happens. If anyone does encourage you to become deaf in any way then, no you don’t need to be associated with that person.
Embrace What You Have
You will take it for granted if you are already hearing and you want to lose your hearing, you’re going to take it for granted because yes, there is pride for a lot of people about being deaf.
There’s a lot of pride about that but that’s not without its challenges and the barriers that exist in the world.
Because right now there are certain situations, for example where if you want to access videos and content or cinemas and they have no caption, that’s a problem.
You may have barriers in getting certain jobs just because people are afraid to hire deaf people.
You might feel excluded from certain social events like a family gathering or going for out a meal at a restaurant, that will be something that you will miss out on as well.
So yes, there is pride, there is something beautiful about it but it’s not something that is going to be an easily for you if you become deaf, it is challenging as well.
There has to be more to the story and I feel like I’m missing out on something and that’s why I do talk to people on my Patreon page and you check it out in the description where you can sign up and be part of the Patreon community, where I talk to people there.
And it’s interesting that people ask that question because I feel like I’m missing something. If that applies to you, let me know.
So after all that, then how do you become deaf? How can I do it? If that’s what you want to do, how can I do it? Well, here’s the thing, I’m going to give you a few ideas on how you can temporarily go deaf.
Maybe you want to simulate it, maybe you want to kind of get an idea of what it feels like, not exactly going to be the replica of being deaf but get an idea.
And maybe you want to be in a situation where you can go deaf, quote deaf, and the way you can do that is just wear really good earplugs or maybe just buy some really good quality noise-canceling headphones, or maybe you wear those big ear defenders that construction workers wear.
That will give you some idea and also give you some peace and quiet if that’s what you are looking for, then that is something that you can do. Because then you have option of choosing whether you want to lower the volume or not, and it’s nice to have that option.
So you don’t permanently damage your hearing in any way. Take it from me, you don’t want a permanent solution if you are a hearing person already. You don’t want to be permanently deaf.
If circumstances happen in life then fine, if there had been an unfortunate accident or an illness, anything like that, you can’t control it. Okay, then you adapt to it but you don’t want to force it upon yourself.
However, what I will suggest you do is, if you want to associate yourself with deafness then maybe you can learn sign language, maybe you can be part of the community, meet with other people.
Maybe you can just raise deaf awareness and talk about the topic and become more knowledgeable about the topic. Above all though, even after all of that, I really really think that you should talk to someone.
You have to talk to someone because there is definitely more to the story and I want to make sure that you have the right reason for becoming deaf, but without forcing yourself to become deaf.
There are obvious ways of doing that, there are obvious ways of forcing yourself to become deaf and damage your hearing.
The thing is, I’m not going to give you any ideas nor am I going to encourage it either, and don’t get me wrong, there’s noting wrong with being deaf, nothing wrong with it but it’s not a solution and it’s certainly something that you don’t want to happen to if you are already a hearing person.
You can become part of the community, all that kind of stuff but, talk to someone because I can promise you, it’s not a solution.
So please look after yourself, don’t harm yourself, don’t harm your hearing and let me know if this applies to you, let me know what you think in a comment below and hopefully, I will speak to you again soon.
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